Babbs, do you recognize yourself in there by any chance?
I feel sorry for your friends though, Babbs but that's still their side of the story, right? In any case, if you truly love your freedom and want to have your life back, then just get out of that marriage.
Yep. Yep. Yep. I learned maladaptive behaviors to get me through the early years, some made me freakin' awesome!
others made me a freaking nightmare
It turns out that years of awesomeness can get wiped out by just a little nightmare.
And there ain't enough time and $$$$$$ to fix my ass.
Emm, find out what your friends over on that message board have to say about guys who surrender, like my friends have.
Btw, one of them is in the process of getting divorced right now. Her decision, too!
And it gets worse! She made him get a female divorce attorney so that she'd have a more sympathetic advisary.