Marian: You already contributed a lot by the ranking threads, now added to this, you also have moderating work to do, thanks for your work which I appreciated a lot
Alex: even if you are going to hate me, I have to say this. What you said to Emma like fat monkey, going back to India etc are not only some jokes but big insult to a woman. Though I tend to believe that you were being affected by your illness, but this was still not right. I hope after you calmed down, you to apologise to Emma.
Thanks for the words of encouragement, Miranda.
Unlike what Alex thinks, I didn't take this job to police the forum, but to help Scott. It's clear enough he has limited time to be around.
I know Alex has been along for quite a lot of time, or that he out-ages me by many years, and I respect all that he posted on this forum for a long time. I respect a user who can be integral for such a long time and it all goes beyond fanhoods. I doubt he will ever apologize because I don't see him backing down. I don't wanna destroy what has apparently been a treasured part of this forum, but I don't wanna see insults cast freely anymore either. I would like to either see Alex post like a normal mature person or not post at all. If Scott wants me to stop moderating for wanting this, I will stop moderating, but I will not stop posting rankings, deciphering old ATP ranking systems and reconstituting them.
But there are things in his behavior I have not seen in people I knew and know with similar conditions or worse conditions. What I see in Alex is that he doesn't know the female mind at all. Joking around and talking nasty to a woman to challenge her doesn't necessarily mean she likes it, despite she giving signs that she does. It's valid to some friends to a certain degree. I don't know how he would not know this. Only once you form a stable relationship, you find out more and more, it's not like you hang out with the guys in a bar at all. She may like it when you push her buttons sporadically once she knows you better, but even then, cross her and you pay dearly.
But even after 5 years of marriage and 1 year of fatherhood to a little girl, I still don't get women, and I probably never will. You are puzzles to us men, as many of us are to you.